This is Part 1 of what I want to say about love. Inspired by my love for Brendan…...I won’t be offended if you don’t read this.
When I was diagnosed with cancer last May I decided to go home and write a list of all my accomplishments, regrets and wishes. I had been dating Brendan for a year and I was reflecting on it. He was a tough guy to try to have a relationship with! (Not surprised are you?) But when reflecting on that year I had to smile, because it was the most fun I’d had in many years. I then thought to myself, “ if this is my last year on earth would I want to spend it with Brendan?” My heart skipped a beat….Yes, definitely! Besides being with my amazingly beautiful kids there was no one on earth I would rather spend time with than Brendan.
Doctors didn’t know how bad the cancer was until they analyzed tissue samples after the surgery. Luckily it hadn’t spread to my lymph nodes but I had to have a second surgery just two weeks later because they hadn’t been able to remove enough of the cancer during the first surgery. I got through that last summer having two surgeries followed by radiation that went through to October 1st. The radiation caused an infection which took some hard core steroids and antibiotics to overcome. I finally felt back to normal the first week of December. Brendan got me through it. Not so much what he did for me but just the fact that he was with me and kept me company through it.
We are so careless with love. We swipe left and right on dating apps like Tinder. We make long lists of qualities we want in a person and if they don’t measure up we discard them. We hit a rough patch with a partner and we dump them and look for someone else. Then we end up having the same exact issues with the new person we thought was “the one”. What’s my point? You never know who is going to come along and rock your world. If and when you find it don’t analyze it too much. If you have a list of 10 qualities you want in a partner, pick 3 you can’t live without and cross out all the rest. And love fiercely.
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