Brendan's Ofrenda (Dia de Los Muertos) Nov 2, 2018

On Mourning: by Freud

Freud describes grief as being ongoing and forever.

“Although we know that after such a loss the acute state of mourning will subside, we also know we shall remain inconsolable and will never find a substitute. No matter what may fill the gap, even if it be filled completely, it nevertheless remains something else. And actually, that is how it should be. It is the only way of perpetuating that love which we do not want to relinquish.”

Many grievers will agree, this latter depiction more accurately reflects their experience.

From The Funeral Friend

Time Will Always Have It's Way.....By Megan Devine

When someone sends me a note to say the one they love died 6 weeks ago, or 6 months, or two years, I always say – it’s both a blink and an eternity, isn’t it. They’ve been gone forever, and they were just right here.

In my early days, I dreaded time passing. My biggest fear was not that I would always be in so much pain, but that I one day wouldn’t be. How could I ever be anything but destroyed? If I could come back from this, something this huge, how could anything in the world ever seem important or real again?

It took about 3 1/2 years before my own timeline felt like it started to move forward. It wasn’t horrifying, as I had feared. Moving forward in my life was not moving away from Matt, or from the life we shared. Life moved forward, and I carried him with me. Not in the ways I wanted to, but in the ways I could.

It is neither good nor bad. It’s just what is. Quite simply, no matter how much I hate it, he died, and I did not. I can’t place a qualifier on the way time has changed me. I could no more stop time from inching forward than I could hold him back when the river swept him away.

Time will always have its way.

If you’re in that place where you feel instantly nauseous even thinking about a life without this pain that is evidence of love, please don’t worry. If you’re somewhere past those days, but life has not yet begun to move forward with you, please don’t worry. Life will unfold, and with it, your heart will find its own rhythm. It can’t be forced, and it also can’t be stopped.

Time will speed by, and time will stammer and stall. Both things are true. Your heart will find its own way. I can’t tell you any more than that. Only time will tell what this life becomes for you.

Staying true to yourself, holding fiercely to your own heart, your own core – these are the things that will guide you. One weird minute at a time.

A Dream Within a Dream

BY EDGAR ALLAN POE

Take this kiss upon the brow!

And, in parting from you now,

Thus much let me avow —

You are not wrong, who deem

That my days have been a dream;

Yet if hope has flown away

In a night, or in a day,

In a vision, or in none,

Is it therefore the less gone?

All that we see or seem

Is but a dream within a dream.



I stand amid the roar

Of a surf-tormented shore,

And I hold within my hand

Grains of the golden sand —

How few! yet how they creep

Through my fingers to the deep,

While I weep — while I weep!

O God! Can I not grasp

Them with a tighter clasp?

O God! can I not save

One from the pitiless wave?

Is all that we see or seem

But a dream within a dream?

I Take You Everywhere I Go...

I Take You Everywhere I Go

Nature Center Across From Waddell Beach, Hwy 1.

The Book of Random Garage Bullshit!

Only Dart Scores Kept In This Funny Little Book And One Sentence

"Buster is a gay cat." 

Heartbreakingly Beautiful Poem From Corinne: When I Die.....

Sold Your Audi To A Professional BMX Competitor (Paul) & His Sweet Girlfriend Alexa

Dearest Corinne & Al,


An awesome story about the Audi.


I finally was able to sell it after many attempts. I sold it to a 24 year old guy & his girlfriend "Alexa" for $500. This guy, Paul is a maniac over Audi's and wants to put money into the car and travel around the states with his girlfriend. He and his girl Alexa insisted on leaving the "Never Forget....." bumper sticker on the back and take various pictures of the car/bumper sticker on their travels around the states.


Ironically Paul is a BMX competitor and traveled all around the country to various competitions. (Like Robert Paul LeClair) He told me it was actually his mother who was the one who supported him and drove him to almost every state! So I thought it was perfect that out of all the calls and interest in the car, that this guy drove 3 hours because he wanted to buy it so badly. AND that his girlfriend is Alexa. I told Paul, Alexa and Paul's mom and dad (who came along) the story of Brendan, our tribute's to him ...and about our own Alexa in Scituate.


Anyway, I love that this kid bought Brendan's car and was sure you would be delighted to hear the story.


Can anyone ever have any doubt that Brendan was MAGICAL & continues to be MAGICAL forever......and until we meet him again.


Love you guys tons and tons!!--


Wendy

The "Sign Barn" and other adventures

Brendan, A Collection You Were Always Dreaming About

Along trail across from Waddell Beach, Hwy 1.

Sun Filtering Through Crystals Hanging In My Window

Click on the link below.....

https://www.facebook.com/wendy.l.mcmullen/videos/10157974562960299/

Hideaway By Todd Rundgren

Brendan, this song says so much about how I felt about you.
I wanted to understand your world. Now I realize, we ALL
wanted to understand your world. I spent countless hours/days/
weeks/months and over a year trying to figure you out; what
made you tick. As your mom said to me, regarding you,
"We've never been able to crack the code."

The other part of this song makes me think of where you've gone?
 I feel you in my heart all of the time now.Yet, I'm still attached to
your human form. I'd give anything to have you here on earth again,
sitting next to you watching shows and snuggling with the Whoo.
When I think of you, I see myself caressing your hair as you sleep.
And in the daydream I go so deeply into, I hear myself saying over
and over again, "It's okay Brendan, everything is going to be okay.
It's okay honey, it's okay honey."

I know I say this again and again. But gosh; I am so very happy
that I gave you so very much love and attention. So very glad!

Hideaway

by Todd Rundgren

I've been watching how you dance

Watching how you smile

Watching how you carry yourself around in a crowd

And watching what you say


You've got something that's a secret to the average eye

You've been saving something nobody's seen until now

In a hideaway

I'm not trying to invade your privacy


There are things you have a right to hide

But it's oh so cold

Standing on the outside

Will you take me to your secret hideaway


I won't tell nobody where I'm going

Won't you tell me that we're leaving right away

For the heart of your hideaway

Everybody's looking for a heaven on earth


A slice of paradise where nobody gets hurt

Someone to put the pieces back together again

When your daydreams die

Are you trying to get a message through the air to me?


Get me on your wavelength and tell me which way to go

To your hideaway

I can't stand another second in this tinker-toy world

Give me your direction


Don't make me wait anymore

It seems so far away

You can trust me with your secret fantasy

You will never know until you've tried


But it's oh so cold

Standing on the outside


I've been trying to get a message

Through the air to you

Get on my wavelength

And I'll tell you which way to go

To my hideaway


I will show you to my secret hideaway

We will tell nobody where we're going


Songwriters: Steve Lamb / Jon Deveril / Steve Thompson