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Elegy by Siegfriend Sassoon


Elegy 

“Your dexterous wit will haunt us long, 
wounding our grief with yesterday, 
your laughter is a broken song; 
and death has found you, 
kind and carefree. 
We may forget those transient things, 
that made your charm and our delight, 
but loyal love has deathless wings, 
that rise and triumph out of the night. 
So, in the days to come, 
your name shall be as music that ascends, 
when honor turns a heart from shame…
O heart of hearts! O friends of friends!” 

Siegfried Sassoon

Grief Lasts As Long As Love Lasts




There Are No Right Words.

On Grief, Loss and Bad News…


An Article About Grief That I Found Valuable (click to access the article)






Friend,
Will you sit with me for awhile
And listen to the song of my despair?

You see, a chunk of my heart has been taken.
It was here with me just yesterday
And now it has returned to me as dust.

I promise, I am not expecting you to
utter perfect phrases of solace,
Instead you may speak silently
and express every word
without uttering a sound.

Science May Be Able To Explain My Connection With Brendan

Could Consciousness All Come Down to the Way Things Vibrate?

I love this article because it gives me a clue as to how Brendan and I were in a perfect synchronicity together especially in the final weeks before he died; how it all came together.  
Things like:

The Resonance Theory of Consciousness

Spontaneous Self Organization

I'm looking forward to reading the book:


"Sync: How Order Emerges from Chaos in the Universe, Nature, and Daily Life,"


And other profound theories like:


"communication through coherence."

&

internal biological oscillators

I've asked that some of my ashes be mixed with yours

I've recently updated my google doc concerning the wishes I have at the end of my life and when I die. I've instructed my children and the rest of my family and close friends that I want some of my ashes mixed with your ashes Brendan. I don't know where they should place us together after that; but I'm leaning towards wanting us scattered together off the cliffs of the Mendocino Botanical Gardens in Ft. Bragg.

I just read the last words that were spoken before the death of several celebrities. At least 4 out of 20 of them spoke about being reunited once again with their partners/spouses.  I can't wait to see you again Brendan. I will wait of course, but it will be so nice to see you again.  I love you and desperately miss you!

When Death Comes....



𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗗𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗵 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘀


When death comes

like the hungry bear in autumn;

when death comes and takes all the bright coins from his purse


to buy me, and snaps the purse shut;

when death comes

like the measle-pox;


when death comes

like an iceberg between the shoulder blades,


I want to step through the door full of curiosity, wondering:

what is it going to be like, that cottage of darkness?


And therefore I look upon everything

as a brotherhood and a sisterhood,

and I look upon time as no more than an idea,

and I consider eternity as another possibility,


and I think of each life as a flower; as common

as a field daily, and as singular,


and each name a comfortable music in the mouth,

tending, as all music does, toward silence,


and each body a lion of courage, and something

precious to the earth.


When it's over, I want to say: all my life

I was a bride married to amazement.

I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.


When it's over, I don't want to wonder

if I have made of my life something particular, and real.

I don't want to find myself sighing and frightened,

or full of argument.


I don't want to end up simply having visited this world.


- Mary Oliver -


(New and Selected Poems 1992)

Love is really the only thing we can possess....


.....you will grieve forever....