The "Tribe of After"

I've just become a member of "Tribe of After", a Facebook Support Group. This is created by Megan Divine who wrote the book:

It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

She also started the group: Refuge in Grief

This is what I wrote for my first post as a new member of the group. 

It's been 6 months since my boyfriend was struck by a car and died in the hospital a few days later. The pain feels even worse the past two weeks. Its a struggle to work without crying through the day and to take care of my children. Last year at this time I was recuperating from breast cancer surgery. Then came radiation, and a severe infection. I had finally gotten on my feet last December. Brendan got me through all of it. Then January 2018 he turned 42 years old. We were never so closer than after my health crisis. Tragically, a week before Valentines Day, Brendan was hit by a car while crossing the road, airlifted to a hospital in San Jose, CA and was pronounced brain dead two days later. He was a donor so they kept his body alive while medical teams from all over the country arranged to "harvest" his organs. The very last time I saw him, all hooked up to machines, he looked absolutely beautiful. He looked like a Prince. The hardest thing I've ever done in my life is leave him for the very last time. Looking so "Alive." How does one get over this?? His organs saved 3 women's lives. I know, yes I know I should be happy. But pretty much the hardest thing to hear from people is: "At least he saved people's lives donating his organs."

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These are other books I would highly, highly recommend. Luckily I also have an Audible account and just downloaded the "Grief Works" from this lovely British Author & Grief Counselor. So very, very helpful.